An interview with JOY!
Internationally renowned Behavioral Geneticist - Face Reader.
Welcome to Puerto Vallarta, I understand you are going to make this your home for a while at least.
It’s true, I fell under the PV spell as I was passing through on my way to San Miguel de Allende, I like it too much to leave just yet!
You are going to be doing something special for the Vallarta Tribune readers, tell us about that.
Face Facts will be a regular feature enabling one reader every week to receive a free mini face reading for themselves or someone they want to understand better.
Tell us about face reading, what is it exactly and how accurate is it?
The face reading I teach is actually a science based onBehavioral Genetics; How the DNA that determines our facial features also determines our basic patterns of behavior. It’s been validated with 98% accuracy and is used in the U.S. for jury selections and criminal identification.
98% accurate, that’s a pretty big claim.
I thought so too, in fact I originally set out to discredit it, believing the whole face reading thing to be at best akin to reading tea leaves and a worst a racial judgment. As a rational business person I was offended at the claim that someone could look at a face and know with 98% accuracy how that person thought and how they would behave.
How did you come to teach it then?
It was part of the Specialized Kinesiology training I was doing. I had to complete all the modules to be certified in the modality. The more I learned about face reading the more amazed I became at it’s accuracy until I finally realized this is a skill everyone should have, it should not be restricted to the justice system!
I learned that people really are their traits and that understanding these traits was enabling me to understand why people behave the way they do without needing to take the behavior personally. It transformed every relationship I had!
How did it do that?
I used to believe everyone thought just the way I did, they don’t! As I learned to recognize HOW people thought I was able to communicate more effectively with them on so many levels, personally and professionally.
Communication is about what’s heard, not what’s said. I had been talking to people in the way I like to be spoken to, and not necessarily in the way they needed to hear it!
Can you give us an example?
Sure, let’s go with the how people think example. It’s of huge benefit to anyone trying present new information to someone.
The way we think is determined by the slant of our foreheads. The more the forehead slopes back, the more focused on results the person is. If you are presenting someone with a forehead like this with something new, give them the bottom line first and only as much information as they ask for. Anything else will bore and annoy them.
If the forehead goes straight up or bulges out, the person needs new information to be presented in a logical step by step manner, if you leave something out they will suspect you are trying to hide something. They want all the information presented before they make a move.
This one piece of information alone can increase sales dramatically.
It sounds a bit like a way of typing people by the way they look.
It does sound that way until you realize that behavioral genetics doesn’t just work in and of itself, it works in relation to whoever you are with.
Take for example someone with a very wide face. Perhaps as wide as it is long. This is the trait of self confidence, these people will jump right in and give just about anything a go, and they can’t understand why everyone else doesn’t operate the same way.
Now look at the opposite of that trait; someone with a long thin face. This trait tells us that the person is more cautious, don’t push them faster than they are willing to go, they like to proceed at a more deliberate pace
While they are together the person with the wide face will always be the confident one. And the person with the narrow face will be the voice of caution in that relationship.
But put this person together with someone whose face is wider than theirs, and they will become the cautious one, in that relationship.
Just as in this relationship. When this person is with someone who face is narrower than theirs, they then have the wider face and the extra confidence trait, while they are with that person.
So from this example you can see we have been all things to one another, including confident and cautious in different relationships depending on who we are with. There is never any excuse or reason to say that we don’t know how the other person feels!
See for yourself how it works. Look at the width across the eye sockets of the people that are close to you and compare them to the width of your own face, then observe how your behavior changes in each relationship.
Do you behave in a more confident way around the people whose faces are significantly long and narrower than yours?
Do you tend to be the more cautious one when you are around friends whose faces are much wider than your own?
What about the person who is neither wide nor narrow but in between?
They are lucky, they get to choose much more easily who and what they will experience themselves as in confidence requiring situations; they can go either way depending on who they are with.
Isn’t there a risk of judging people by the way they look?
That’s a good question, I was originally concerned about that too, and then I realized, we judge people by the way they look anyway! This science enables us to do it with compassion and understanding instead of ignorance and assumption. I think it should be taught in schools and to absolutely everyone, it would end so many problems in the world.
How would it do that?
Imagine what would happen if we all really understood WHY people behave the way they do and took that into account instead of taking it personally.
What would be the effect in schools and marriages and business and politics and ALL relationships if we honored one another’s structure and the way they learn and think and respected that in our dealings with each other?
That vision is why I teach it!
Who do you normally teach face reading to?
All kinds of people; people oriented businesses are my biggest clients, it’s a huge advantage to know how your client thinks without them needing to say a word! I also teach managers what to look for when hiring, how to create better teams by understanding who works best with whom and why. I use face reading in couple counseling, one on ones, there’s a lot of call for it among internet daters!
How do you teach it?
I offer it as a 60 minute seminar and a one day workshop. I also teach a 6 week program for sales organizations where the staff learn a series of new traits for an hour a week for six week. It’s very popular because the program pays for itself in increased sales as the sales people learn the skills.
Can we get a reading any other way?
Sure, I do in-depth profiles for gifts and many other reasons! Just email the photo, preferably clear full face and profile to joy@experiencejoy.com If you want compatibility profiling make that clear when you send the photos and I will focus on how each person can best relate to the other.
Thank you very much for your time JOY! I’m looking forward to seeing Face Facts in the coming issues.
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