When I broke up with my fiancée
I was devastated, consumed by worry that I was going to be alone.
I drove myself into a frenzy that
I couldn't control. All I could think about was how alone I was
and how much I couldn't live without him. It was awful!
I totally freaked out, turned to drugs
and alcohol to try to escape my worry, but instead of escaping it
just made everything worse.
I did things I never imagined I could do in my life-time, pushing
away all my friends and making myself even more alone! I didn't
know how to stop the cycle.
Then I read "No Worries, Mate!
"and started applying the de-worrying process whenever I started
thinking about my ex-fiancée and my situation.
Every time the thoughts came up I would
ask, what's the worst thing that could happen if we never get back
together again, the answer was, I would be alone..
Then I would make myself look and see
if that was really true, and I realized I'm not truly alone, that
it wasn't the worst that could happen, that I could survive it,
and that I had done everything I possibly could, including everything
to affect the outcome in a positive way.
Somehow along the way I realized it
wasn't a worry any more, it was just a situation. I had changed
my perception of being alone while I was doing the de-worrying process,
I realized being alone wasn't necessarily a bad thing!
The best thing was that at some point
in the process I had replaced the thought that I couldn't live without
my ex, with the realization that he wasn't really what I needed
in the first place! I had made it through.
I turned my attention to things that
I could do something about and found I no longer had time to worry.
Now whenever I have a worrying thought I change it to something
positive and I get productive. I turned my worry energy in to creative
energy. I've gone from being pitiful and helpless to feeling great
about myself and my life. Instead of sitting around feeling sorry
for myself I make wonderful jewelry and sell it.
Life is GOOD!
Wendy Bright Sunshine
Austin Jewelry Maker
